Which ear signifies being gay

They deserve better from people like me who claim to be their allies. The day after talking to my former student, I removed my earring. The choice between getting a new piece of jewelry or saving lives is an easy one to make. To my gay and lesbian friends, I would like to apologize for my past insensitivity.

I am grateful to have so many good friends, both gay and straight, who accept me for who I am, and I want you to know that I accept and love all of you, too. To my former student who respectfully and justifiably called me out for my hypocrisy, thank you for challenging me. Thank you for making me think about how a decision I made nearly thirty years ago still affects people today.

And most importantly, thank you for helping me see the difference between right and wrong. Some men might want to think twice about having their ears pierced. An earring to them is feminine. You can maybe get away with a pinkie ring, but an earring really rattles their cage. At Maya, though, Rios and his wife, Wendy, have come up with ways to deal with the dilemma of the man who wants to look businesslike in his professional life and devil-may-care in his off hours.

While his newly pierced ear is healing, they say, a man can cover the post with a small, round Band-Aid. In the end the male earring lost its sexual significance altogether, and simply became a generalized way of annoying middle-aged, latter-day puritans. Another guy got two piercings in his right ear in college, to which we all remarked that that he wanted everyone to know that he was a power bottom — which he is. A man in the U. If it were in my right ear, that would mean I was gay. Quinn Myers is a staff writer at MEL.

Flamboyant reggaeton singer Bad Bunny regularly wears an even longer one. Onscreen, Julio Torres sports a singly dangly and blue hair in Los Espookys. And in the trailer for American Horror Story: , Cody Fern smolders in impossibly short shorts, a tight tank, and a lopsided piercing.

You can find it hanging from the ears of boys kissing boys outside of queer bars in Bed-Stuy, and on the ears of boys kissing tattooed, short-haired girls on subway platforms in Williamsburg.

The single dangly truly does not discriminate. Instead, the decision about which side to dangle has become increasingly practical. Paul, a copy editor, said he chose the right because he sleeps on his left.